Don't take it into the New Year: Soundtrack of my life

Life and times of Love: 2011 Goals

Prepare myself for my blessings
Better myself (mentally, spiritually and physically)
Run 10K
Enjoy the now "27"
Do what I want now that I can be selfish and have no one to worry about but myself
Do the things I used to love (for example writing)
Save money to travel in 2012

This is a new section that I am introducing for 2011. These post will basically be the same as the no regrets post but it will be all the crazy things I do on my own and not from a book. The things I listed above is just an overview of what I want to do next year. Though some of the stuff listed could be hard to share with you I look forward to coming up with ways that I can. :) Yay 2011!!

All we ever talk about is PARTYING,fashion, and men....

Hair

After growing out my hair to it's natural color I decided I couldn't take it anymore. I have been coloring my hair since I was 14 and at 25 I thought why not go back to my natural color. Well I couldn't be just natural so I decided to cut my hair too. I love my short hair but like I said I am over my natural color. I mean you can't control everything in life but I love the feeling of control when I change my hair and it turns out great. So raise your glasses because I am going back to rocking a different color hairdo. I'm starting off slow with highlights and keeping my cut short so we will see.....

I will update you with pictures as soon as I like taking pictures but I guess it defeats the whole purpose if I don't let you see my hair through the stages of change.....So pics soon to come.....

K-liners

So sorry I have been slacking with the random crazy things that my friends and I say but here's a few things that I can remember being said over the past few months.


If they really want my love, they need to go to Coach and buy me a purse.

Girl, you are from VA, that automatically means you got fire down there, now what you do with it is on you.

That twister game naked is the hotness.....

I play by the rules, you play by the game

Will single girls now and forever more die hitting the refresh button

Rolled hard and put away wet

Love as often as you can. Dance like nobody's watching. Travel. Eat. Try new foods because, you never know what's coming for you and when it's time to let go, you got to let go.- T. Henson

I can hear myself screaming choose me, pick me......

No Regrets- Swinging on Poles

Officially my body is in pain because I took my first pole dancing class yesterday. Honestly I had a blast.

I walked into this class with two parties, a bachelorette party and a group of older ladies that were having a girls day out. At that point I thought to myself great, I get to meet knew people and there might be someone in the class that is awful because I just knew I was going to be awful at it. Well once we got into it- it didn't start out that bad. You have the warm up then she teaches you the stripper posture, the walk, and the caress. When she taught the caress the class kind of went to the humorous side because she kept saying "Ladies please remember it is very important to touch yourself at all times".....LMBO! And let me just say I was not the only one that thought that was funny.

And then comes the hard part.....

Next we were taught how to grind, rock and grind, how to grind to the floor. Then we had to go from the floor back to standing while looking sexy the whole time. We did it but it didn't look cute or sexy. So our instructor had to keep reminding us when coming off the floor to lead with the ass. After the floor work we hit the pole. She taught us to work the pole slowly. How to walk around the pole, how to climb the pole, and do a simple spin around the pole. Warning....the pole is always slippery (which once we were told this we began to giggle like little girls). Also the simple spin looks simple but is of course not simple. Now after all of this comes the fun part when we take what we learned and put it together. Sounds like a good idea if we could actually do it. But with practice I think I just might be a little seductive with what I learned. Naw....I might have to take that back. Anyway after the cool down I talked to the instructor and she basically sold me on taking more classes.

So I hope you enjoyed this post because there will be many more and maybe some pictures.

New Music- Soundtrack of my life

Special Edition Part 2

Now that you know the rules here are some warning/ things that you must understand.

1. There are no guarantees.

Don't expect to have a conversation about the future. You will not be participating in family events, exchanging gifts or meeting the friends (unless the know about the situation). Once MLK day comes around the cuffer will be telling you they need space.

2. You may think that you're in a relationship but you aren't....

You will not meet the parents, go on any couples night. No titles at all. You will be introduced as the friend.

3. You don't owe them anything don't buy anything and don't expect anything.

Just don't get gifts, don't wear anything fly, don't buy new fragrances...they get what they get due to the situation.

4. You're not exclusive (I don't even think I need to explain this)

5. You are probably not the girl or guy of their dreams

Believe me if you were they would not be letting you go.

There is no real rhyme or reason to this at all. It's just something that some people may do so they aren't lonely during the winter. It sucks but it happens.

I found out more but this is all the time I am willing to give to this.....now that you are up to speed do what you will with it.

All we ever talk about.....Special Edition

Now that cuffin season is suspended….let’s be warned….

What is cuffin season, well it's when you meet someone in the beginning of Fall and date/ sleep with them throughout the winter, then call it quits when it starts getting warm. Which means that cuffin season only last from Labor Day until the 3rd of November, it is then suspended until February 15th and finally ends the Friday before Memorial Day weekend. Why during this time period you may ask.....well lets be smart we have to avoid holidays and Valentines day. It's about having someone to keep you warm during the lonely season not about being in a relationship.

I knew about cuffing season but I never knew people really did this and it was bought up in a random conversation a few months back then I heard a PSA on the radio warning people about this time of year so I thought this was definitely worth blogging about.

Some people may think that this is something that guys made up but girls do participate either way. To participate you must follow the rules, yes there are rules. Now people who play the game may say that cuffin season doesn't exist because real playas don't take off, they play the game yearly. Yet somehow there is a time when guys/girls who just couldn't commit during the summer end up being one woman man or one man woman.....hmmm right.

So once I confirmed that this was true I had to find the rules that most participants follow during this season.

Rules to Cuffin Season

1. Don't invade each other space, you're here to get a long and fulfill each others needs...that's it.
2. Don't just find the most attractive girl or guy, make sure there is something else there because you have to be able to stand being around this person.
3. Don't just sleep together and go to your separate corner....pay them enough attention to keep them coming back.
4. Don't try to prove you are with them by caring too much about their life, don't ask about their job, hopes or dreams. You just care when they can be at your place and how long.
5. Don't pursue what's not there. This isn't a relationship there is always some else going on in each of yall lives. Work, school, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend.....most of the time it is just about the sex.
6. If he or she is on the phone a quarter of the time you're together and doesn't work or own a business, dead them. Just let them go, they are really not following the rules.
7. Girls like to have a sense of security, so give her that. Don't be flaky and let her know what's up-up front.
8. Guys want you to be ready to go when they call....drop what you are doing or they will move on to the their back up for the rest of the season.
9. Be careful. Twitter and facebook can fail you during cuffin season.
10. Don't be an enable. If your letting them in your place all day chillin, cleaning, cooking, playing video games etc. then get them out of your place. That may make them think more is going on like a relationship......remember this is not about a relationship.

Don't blame me I didn't make these up I found them thanks to my friend google.

All we ever talk about is partying, FASHION and men

The search is on!!!

And for what may you ask. For the perfect LBD or Princess Dress. A woman doesn't need a reason to buy a new dress. Who cares about New Years Eve, it's not my birthday but I am really in need of a fly dress to go with my new red heels. Something fabulous, sexy and classy all at the same time.

If like me you work hard, play hard and love hard why not treat yourself.

I think about the little black dress and I think sex appeal, something that makes you feel good. Yet it is a staple in a females wardrobe so of course I already have one...hmmm....

Princess dress- I don't own one, so maybe I should......

I'm going to continue the search and keep you updated on my finds and if by chance you come across a great spot to look let me know.

Soundtrack of My Life

No Sorrows Just Lessons

The year is almost over and if I can't say anything else about this year, I can say I have learned so much about myself and the people around me. I started this blog for many reasons and a big part of it was my no regrets post. I haven't posted in while because life happens and lessons happen. The 25 year old me had a blast, loved 25 and the 26 year old me well there are no words. I went into this year thinking I would better myself, my relationships and my faith. In the end I didn't recognized who I was and how I allowed myself to become this person because I didn't see the better. Now I do....I have learned to apologize first (which is on my list of no regrets) yay and that not everything you want is what you need or meant for you. There were many more lessons but they were sad and now that I have learned I'm happy, so lets move on.

As I go into 2011 which has been given the motto "New Truth" and "No Boys Allowed" by a friend and my roommates I will continue going down my list of regrets I hope not to make and just enjoy being me and sharing it with you all.

Looking forward I am excited about....visiting my family in Texas and Kentucky. My second and last tattoo (maybe), being apart of the hospitality team at church, my yearly trip to the beach and not regretting a moment of being 27 in 2011. Bye 26 and 2010 you sucked but thanks for all that you taught me. :)

No Regrets

*Learn to Cook Something Exceptional*

Every fabulous girl should have a signature dish to wow guests. I love to cook, there is nothing better then being in the kitchen. It helps with my stress and I love to see people enjoy my food. There are so many things that I make well but exceptional I don't know. I'm still working on pancakes but right now it is not a good look. I have no regrets about my cooking ability but I will keep working on making exceptional dishes. Look forward to many future post about my 2011 dishes.

No Regrets

*Have as Many Kisses as Your Morals Allow*


So I was never sure if I was actually going to try this one but, while celebrating a friend's birthday and enjoying my 1st year at Strawberry Hill I realize that kissing a random guy happens from time to time. So why regret a simple display of attraction or passion. You never know it could be that kiss that makes your leg pop back, knees crave in, heart flutter, electricity strike and your brain fuzzy.

"Embrace your singledom and those rare moments of mutual attraction while you Can."

Truth be told kissing is my favorite thing because it is so intimate. I'm not always so flirty that I would just kiss any random guy but it happens and I never regret it not even the bad ones. The out of control tongues, the bad breath, the guys that think it is okay to lick your face.....gosh. They're all learning experiences. I am not going around making out or sleeping with every guy that I am attracted to or that a little liquid courage persuades me to. Its just that once in every blue moon that guy, whom could have every girl in the world, pulls you close to him and softly or aggressively (depends on how you like it) presses his lips against yours. That's when you say to yourself "oh wow I definitely will not regret this tomorrow."

So if your morals allow it go for it, if not find something else that makes you feel "emotionally alive" whether it's a romance novel or a chick flick. Hey when you are single you have to get in where you fit in.....



Still to come....Making the perfect pancakes or just cooking anything exceptional because sometimes you need a signature dish.

I love this song or in other words THIS IS MY SONG!!!!!

Don't Get Comfortable (In Anything)

I was asked recently why I did a certain thing, I think the persons actual words were "You did what! Black people don't do that." Of course my response was "REALLY!"

We as people can't keep ourselves in a box. If I only do stuff because others did it, I would never do anything new or different. We get so wrapped up in our routine that we become comfortable and do the same things over and over. I don't want to get comfortable. In my race, gender or even in my fears. Yes I said fears. Sometimes we are so afraid of the unknown we get comfortable in our fears and we don't try things because we are scared. Don't let your fears rule you! Don't be comfortable! Let nothing hold you back, don't have regrets.

Try that food that you have never tasted but you think will be nasty.
Take that trip that you have been putting off due to finances.
Be uncomfortable in a room of people you don't know.
Eat that meal alone and not at home in the restaurant.

Kliner: Pain is inevitable, misery is optional.

No Regrets

Compete with Yourself, Not Your Girlfriends

My friends and I are all so different but of course we have characterizes that make us compatible as friends. I never thought of myself as someone that competed with my friends. So there are no regrets for me in this department.

I always try to grow, take inventory and make changes every year. I have enough issues of my own it would be too stressful to try to compare my life to my friends. We grew up different and have different hopes and dreams. Which makes it easy to compete with myself. Only I have a understanding of where I was as a person (mentally, physically, and emotionally) a few years back. So as a new year comes and I see how I have grown, I'm excited. I haven't always been a fan of change. But I understand it is needed.

Key points that I think are good to live by:

Focus on beating your own standards and setting your own targets. You should be competing only against yourself, or rather your better you.

We should all push toward our personal goals with passion and determination.

Summer Come Already

Visit the beach filled summer bayou near the hot green paddled sea where county magnolia vines produced by fresh season weather sparkle wet surrounded by lush ice melon. Experience the deep delicious dark fragrant coast discover the wave of heat that brings the want of grits and berry tea. That the need of apple pie and open sky bring together the tradition that was once left in the past. Hot tamales and blow pops. Water melon and cookouts. When the rain is warm and nobody cares that it's storming.

I love the summer....Especially in the south

What's your favorite season and why?

K liners

She needs to call her momma with that drama



Don't make your business my business



Let my heart go somewhere it belongs




You make me chase you like its a compliment

Bridget Jones Moment (Me)

I wanted to find something deep to say yet I just breath
I wanted to find something sweet to say but it all came out so mean
This awkward part of life
Where wanting to plan life just seem like a must
Yet you plan and God laughs
Like he laughs when I look at him, when I stare at him
I want to tell him something
Something different then what I have ever told him
As much as my mind wants my heart just will not give up
The fear of loneliness is equal to the fear of him knowing
I know that I have to tell him
The need is overwhelming yet I just breath
I wanted to find something sweet to say
It comes out so mean because I have to act unimpressed
By his plans or his dreams
I have a path of my own that I'll rather travel alone
I can't believe this way of thinking hasn't changed
This is where it ends, the wanting
Wanting to say something but instead I give him the cold shoulder
It's all about self preservation
In the end if I say anything the reality wouldn't be as good as the dream

Bridget Jones Moment Spotlight

Author: Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while
you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't always promises
and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and and your eyes ahead with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong and you really do have worth and you learn and you learn
with every good-bye you learn.

New Music

The Hot Guy

What a world he must live in to be so….what is a good word…hmmmm……delicious that he could have his pick of any girl he wants. He's like a new hand bag to females everyone is trying to put their name on the waiting list…

All we talk about is partying, fashion and MEN

Apparently guys have a list too and we aren’t meeting their criteria as much as they aren’t meeting ours. So when do we just compromise……

Partying, FASHION, and men

This seasons essentials

Hobo Bag

Target

Prices range from $10-$50

Pencil Skirt at Target $20-$30

Simple white shirt (button up or t-shirt)

Target $10-25

Best Buys: TJ Maxx, Forever 21, or Marshalls

All we ever talk about is partying, fashion and MEN

You know when you are moving on from a guy that you should have known was going to be a waste of your time. I think you go through symptoms of withdrawal.

First of all you have to go cold turkey. So you do everything you can to extract the individual from your life. Delete his number, change your hangout spots, and just stop talking to him and about him in general.

Yet you miss having that person to talk to. It’s not even like the conversations were deep or so entertaining that you feel like you have a void. They were very lack luster because you know guys don’t really do the phone thing. Yet you have to call, you need to call and you wonder what they are doing, how was their day. Then you feel stupid for even caring. You get mad at yourself for wanting him.

So once that stage is over you move on to the why. Why isn’t he calling, why doesn’t he want to know what you are doing and how your day/week/month is going. Stupid, stupid, stupid…..withdrawal. But if you make it through the days, weeks, even the month; the hard part is over and he is no longer in your thoughts. Then opps here comes another one to temp you but you can’t forget the pains of withdrawal. The cravings, self doubt, the self pity, the nervous twitch (haha there is no nervous twitch but that would be funny).


There should be like automatic alert embedded in our mind so when the bs guys approach us we know to keep it moving and to not waste our time with them.

Richmond

Snow!!!

So it’s January 30, 2010 and we officially have snow but it’s not the snow that is the issue. No, it’s the crazy things we do to prepare for it and enjoy it.

I went to Kroger around 5:30 pm last night (not to go shopping but to get gift cards, yep I completely forgot about the snow) and as usual everybody in the area and surrounding area was buying the essentials. You know milk, bread, water, and beer. Well I thought that was the essentials until I see this lady with a basket full of diet lime coca cola. Nope I lie to you not nothing else but a basket full of coke. Right away I began to question why but why not maybe it was to melt the snow or who wouldn’t want to have diet lime coke just in case the water cut off (ugh!).

Now I question what snow essentials are really. Waking up this morning I knew we had essentials: Milk, bread, water and wine. Yet there was nothing that I really wanted to eat; so a walk to Ukrops sounded really good (don’t worry my roommate and I aren’t crazy Ukrops is only 5mins away from our house).

Our “now that we are really stuck in the snow” essential consist of:

Brownies

Cheetos

Oranges and grapes

King syrup (really people Ukrops is about to close…we need this stuff)

Rainbow and chocolate chip cookies

Turkey bacon

Medley chips

More Silk

Bagel chips

Yea the snow brings out the crazy in all of us by the way it also brings out drunk old man that smell like pee and stand all in your personal space. That’s a story for another day.

Laughs

Snow is Coming!
Karri Peifer

Published: January 27, 2010

According to the Richmond Times-Dispatch and every meteorologist in town, Richmond is going to get a nice snowfall this weekend … up to a foot, some people say. The snow is supposed to start as early as Friday afternoon and continue into Saturday.

In case you're new to Richmond, let me tell you how we do it here.

• Someone somewhere says snow is coming to Central Virginia.
• We Richmonders start paying attention.
• Someone says it's coming to Richmond.
• We Richmonders really start paying attention.
• Someone brandishes the word "accumulation."

Done. Finished. Over. We who call Richmond home all-out lose our minds. In the case of this snow, it happens like this:

Tuesday morning: The word "accumulation" is used.

Tuesday afternoon: Accumulation confirmed. All weekend plans put on stand-by or out-right canceled.

Tuesday evening: First trip to supermarket for bread, milk, wine, beer and cookie dough.

Wednesday morning / afternoon: Calls around town for sleds begin (for the record, Richmond.com is one step ahead. No one has them; Pleasant's is expecting a shipment on Friday).

Wednesday evening: Local news does a story about the run on supermarkets for bread and milk. Second trip to supermarket for extra bread and milk, plus frozen pizzas and non-perishables, because you never know.

Thursday morning / afternoon: Spend workday obsessively checking the forecast. More calls for sleds. Search online for sleds, but decide against them because you can't believe how much sleds actually cost.

Thursday evening: Meet friends out for drinks or dinner because you never know when you'll get out again. Realize you forgot to buy bagels. How could you forget bagels? Third trip to supermarket.

Friday morning: Alternate staring out window for snow and consulting forecast for exact snow start time. Cancel the rest of weekend plans.

Friday afternoon: Weather.com reports that it is snowing in your area. Run to window. Spend at least one hour yelling at weather.com because it is clearly not snowing. Ask boss about company inclement weather policy. Complain about said policy. Wait an hour; ask boss if company is closing early.

Friday evening: Fourth trip to supermarket on the way home for last-minute necessities, like chocolate and fancy hot cocoa. Alternate staring out window and watching local news for exact snow start time. Watch the Closings scroll to see if your work is closed on Monday, because you never know.

Friday night: Snow finally begins. Call/text all of your friends and family to see if it's snowing in their area and to make sure they're OK in the storm. Update Facebook status to reflect snowfall in case you missed anyone. Order pizza so you don't have to break into rations too soon.

Saturday morning: Marvel at snowfall. Fling pets / children into the snow so they can marvel and so you have pictures for your Facebook page.

Saturday afternoon: Drive or trudge to nearest hill and attempt to sled on a cookie sheet/shower curtain/trashcan lid/pool float.

Saturday evening: Meet friends for out for drinks or dinner to celebrate snow.

Sunday: Eat leftover pizza and stare out window, watching snow melt. Obsessively watch Closings list. Feel happy when the county you once lived in announces closing and then sad because you never became a teacher and now you have to go out, clean off the car and then go to work tomorrow. Plus you've got all that bread and milk to eat.

Happy Anniversary Kid n Play!!

Laughs

Kliners

OK well let me try to answer them to the best of my ability.

Whatever happened to Jon B? I’m not to sure, but he sure was a pretty white boy. Perhaps we should Wiki him.

I wish Friday would get her all ready…. Well considering I’m not really planning on going out this weekend I could care less. Would like to be off work though.

Who has the best French fries? I’m going to have to go with McDonalds on this one. I mean they are just classic. You can’t go wrong with them

And did you know that the 3^rd Monday in January is the most depressing day of the month and it is also MLK day? That figures, of course the white man would be depressed on a black man’s birthday. Besides being “depressed” that’s a white rich people disease. Middle class people don’t have that option to sit at home and cry about they’re lives. I need to be at work.

When is texting enough and a phone called should be made? I think that more phone calls need to be made. Texting is so 2000’s we should bring back talking and writing more letters in 2010

No Regrets

2. French Fries-Without a Side of Guilt

The perfect fry for me is officially found at Kitchen 64 on the Boulevard. So on January 18^th MLK day which happened to fall on the day that scientist have decided (the third Monday in January) is the most depressing day of the year. I decided to go to Kitchen 64 and take on their steak fries. Made with steak, steak fries, cheese and mushrooms these are the greatest invention ever. No, I didn’t eat them by myself my roommates helped and I still had leftovers.

I enjoy fries, next to pizza they are my favorite junk food and I never feel guilty for indulging in them.

Note: If you can’t do this there are always other options. Such as sweet-potato fries.

No Regrets

1. Learn to Love Champagne

I never really liked champagne I’m more of a sparkling wine kind of girl. Yet I figured I

should at least be able to tolerate the stuff at weddings.

Liking champagne has never been on my list of must dos but I gave it a try. I tried a Rose and something name after the first governor of California.

I will not give up maybe one day I will find one other then that I will stay with what I know I like.

No Regrets

So after talking to my mom this weekend I decided to make 2010 my no regrets year. I want to do all the things I should do before I’m too old, married or pregnant.

My mom is about to turn 47 and she decided she wants to learn to swim along with a list of other things. She stated how she does not want me to look back with "what if" and spend my life waiting for life to happen.

I agree it is about me now and not what society thinks/states I should be doing at 25/26 or even what the rest of my peers are doing.

So here I go with no regrets….

1: Learn to Love Champagne

*I will keep you all updated on the outcome of each task. I will not complete everything in the book especially if it is something I have already done or can not afford to do. For example: Going ghost hunting in England would have to go on my bucket list.*

No Regrets: 101 Fabulous Things to do Before you're too Old, Married, or Pregnant is written by Sarah Ivens

Hard Times

When things are hard and you can't bring yourself to cry you have to dance it out....

Most times in my life I wish that I could dance it out. But this morning I really had to put some jasmine Sullivan in and sing it out. Singing over dancing really! Well since I figure it could be possible to fake being a good dancer more then a singer. I usually picked singing. So what do you think, would you rather dance or sing it out?

This leads me to another question. Would you rather have a dance off or a sing off and why?

I mean I could fight about it but why not dance….

Still to come….I wish I had a sound track for my life.

Kliners

YES!

How we really feel about skinny jeans on guys

I just don’t like that look on guys. How hard is it to find a guy that just can wear a nice pair of denim jeans, NOT SKINNY! And not something that’s torn or ripped to look like you had them in the 8^th grade. With a nice pair of sneakers or either nice dress shoes, from like Cole Haan or something. With a nice buttoned down shirt on. Why is that so hard to find? I don’t get it. Guys are stupid if they think that girls think that them having on more jewelry or scarfs around their necks as fashion pieces, jeans that are tighter than mine and their favorite costume character tshirt. THAT IS NOT ATTRACTIVE FOR GUYS OVER THE AGE OF 18!!! Ugggghhhhhh!!


NO!