Life and Times: Cooking

The best part of cooking is experimenting. I had some shrimp, rice and cilantro going to waste so I mixed them together. It wasn't the best thing I've ever made but it was an interesting mixture. I'm going to have to try it again. I will keep you updated of course, on the outcome.

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41 Dance Barefoot on the Beach

The past 3 months have really sucked for me (no need to go into details it's all in the past). When things get bad I normally just listen to music and shut down. Well I went on a much needed vacation to the beach at the time.....between the air, sand and water; everything about the beach is so freeing. I got to thinking about how dancing is equally as freeing. So what better thing to do while at the beach then dancing barefoot in the sand. I spent the whole day at the beach like a big kid. Playing with bubbles, beach toys and walking underneath the stars hoping to catch some late night fireworks. I thought that dancing on the beach during the day would be embarrassing and dancing late at night is kind of creepy because of the random crabs crawling around. It was worth a try. I just wish I was a little bit more carefree. Definitely something to work on and try again. If not for the dance at least for the calories that you burn by walking in the sand alone.

Life and Times of Love: Palm Reading

I went to get my palm read! This was something that I have always wanted to do. So one afternoon I was bored and decided to give it a try. $40s later and a lot of thinking, I decided it was a money game. Of course I already knew that but it was a different experience. These people (psychics) tell you things that could be believable for anyone. Your reaction to hearing the great things open up the door to enable them to get your money. So after they inform you of these great things they tell you that there are evil forces working against you to take away your happiness. Then they tell you that if you give them more money they can help. No I was not about it! That psychic was not getting anymore of my money. Either way, I'm glad I experienced it but let me tell you for a second that lady had me. So I can understand how people fall for that kind of stuff.

K-liners

FYI, this is the only time in our friendship that you are going to be able to ditch me for a man, unless in the case of death.

Ok let me get this straight I can ditch you for 1^st dates only…..ok I got that…..note taken!

Correct, and then if they become your man, then you can’t ditch me for them unless in cases of death or perfuse bleeding.

You are doing the effin most….ok I am taking notes on all this stuff. You know how many 1^st dates I could have tho…this is me we are talking about

LOL!!! Please do. You can have 20 first dates with 20 different dudes, but then you get the 2^nd date or if he becomes your man, is when the rules come into effect.

Use the D don’t let the D use u.. NEW MOTTO

Have to keep busy in every aspect of life

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21 Ditch Toxic Friends

My friendships are very important to me. Mostly because my family hasn't always been the best, they think I am strong and I can survive anything so they are never concerned with me. I tend to go to my friends for the help and support I don't get from my family, which has made some of my friends more like sisters. Lately, I have been feeling that there needs to be a change. The traits that I thought I had or that my friends should have such as being true, loyal, energetic, kind, thoughtful, and fun aren't there anymore. It gets to the point where you have to tell yourself that the reason to stay friends with someone isn't because of history. Friendships aren't one sided, you have to work hard at them. Especially as we get older and our lives change and start to look different. You tell yourself that you have to give the relationship one more try, when you see them going sour. Then you realize that the change and differences are too much. Certain relationships turn toxic and I no longer want to be in toxic relationships. Toxic relationships are the ones where your friends love to put you down, keep you down and make you feel down about yourself. That doesn't make them nasty, just human. These relationships are always about the other person, what you do to them and for them. They never see how they treat you which sucks because I am not friends with people because of what they can do for me. I try to remind myself that I love my friends to the point that I know the worst part of them and I still want to be their friend. I don't want to change or judge them. But there are those toxic friends that can't do the same for me. I'm over it and I have to remove myself from those relationships. I am taking control of the situation and if you can't support me without the backstabbing, I'm done. I can no longer do the up-front approach, it doesn't work. Toxic friends will not change their behavior they would rather turn the situation around to being about you and make everything your fault. So you have to let go and get new friends. Harsh but true. Friendships should be like-minded, happy, healthy, confident, not full of anger and aggression. I'm going to make new memories with my healthy friendships.

Loving creating new memories and making nontoxic friendships stronger.

To all my friends/sisters that love me no matter what, that are honest and not afraid to confront my flaws and theirs....I want you all to know that you will be the company I keep for life.

Sorry toxic friends but you will have to find someone else to co-sign everything you say, that will not speak up for themselves when you mistreat them and give more of themselves than you are willing to give of yourself. I can't deal with the backstabbing any longer. You picked your side now stay on it. I am not that friend anymore.

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96 Get Contact Lenses

My 2nd year of college I was sitting in the back of my psych class and everything on the screen got blurry. Next came the visit to the eye doctor and then came the glasses. Which took a while to get used to but now I love them and really enjoy being able to see. Yea seeing helps a lot. Around my 27th birthday I wanted a change. Contacts sounded like a good idea. Though I was freaked out about stuff touching my eyeball, I am no punk so I got them. I put on a scene at the doctor's office of course. They love me there, I was the entertainment for the day and every time I go. I'm over it now, I put on my big girl panties and moved forward with a new look.

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38 Let go of the Edge of an Ice Rink






I went ice skating for the first time this past December with my cousin Brittany. We went to the new rink outside of the Carpenter Center, it actually was fun. At first I didn't want to do it because falling is not my thing. I just couldn't let go of the edge of the rink. Kids were falling and there was too many people for my liking. My cousin wasn't very helpful, she wouldn't hold my hand or anything, she just told me to deal and falling would be the worst of it. Well of course I fell and the bruised bottom was the worst of it. It allowed me to let go because I could still get hurt holding on. It felt wonderful to let go and embrace my inner child. People always say, well some people, that a life without risk and daring is nothing. That's how it felt to let go daring and risky but if I did nothing I would not have gotten to the fun part. Eventually after a few circuits it got boring so we went to T Miller's, I love that place, for drinks. Basically I am not an ice skater but it was good to try.