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Saturday, May 28, 2011
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Life and Times of Love: Soul mate or No Mate
I was having one of those great talks with my mom today and she asked me an interesting question. She wanted to know if I believed in soul mates. I really had to think on the root of the question before I could truthfully answer. My mom is a woman who has been in back to back relationships since before I was born until I was a teenager. She is now happy and single doing all the things she wish he had done years ago. She really wanted to know if her single daughter who has never been in a relationship, not consisting of over the phone (no face to face) or through text messaging for more than 9 months, believed in soul mates. I had to tell her no.....
I used to be a romantic who believed that GOD made one person just for me and when he thought that I was ready, I would meet him, fall in love and have plenty of babies. Now after broken messy relationships and a heartbreak that I may never get over, I can't honestly say I believe in soul mates. Well of course my mom didn't agree. For some odd reason she believes in soul mates. Yet is confused about if you meet them when you are young and can start a family or when you are 60 and can just enjoy each other. She continues with her confusion by asking me this rambling question. "If you live in Virginia and your soul mate lives in California how would yall ever meet?" (yea she's my mom.) Well I had to give her two answers, my romantic answer "Well God would fix it so we would meet randomly, through friends, in a airport or maybe on vacation."
Then my true feelings....If there was such a thing as soul mates then why are all the great women I know, that would be great girlfriends and great wives, either single or having a hard time finding a mate. I know GOD built us for companionship but who said that companion was supposed to be a husband or a wife. Not everyone gets married or at least spends their lives with that one person. Maybe I'm broken and bitter. But I can't truly believe that GOD is keeping me "happily" single until I am ready for my soul mate or he is ready for me. I used to believe that but I don't anymore. That might be sad but that's where life has taken me. I had to reassure my mom that I would at least try just in case there is someone out there for me. I have no idea who I had that conversation with but that was not my mom. But it does make me think that if someone so independent and content with what life gave her could believe in soul mates then maybe...well umm naw....I don't think I can....
I used to be a romantic who believed that GOD made one person just for me and when he thought that I was ready, I would meet him, fall in love and have plenty of babies. Now after broken messy relationships and a heartbreak that I may never get over, I can't honestly say I believe in soul mates. Well of course my mom didn't agree. For some odd reason she believes in soul mates. Yet is confused about if you meet them when you are young and can start a family or when you are 60 and can just enjoy each other. She continues with her confusion by asking me this rambling question. "If you live in Virginia and your soul mate lives in California how would yall ever meet?" (yea she's my mom.) Well I had to give her two answers, my romantic answer "Well God would fix it so we would meet randomly, through friends, in a airport or maybe on vacation."
Then my true feelings....If there was such a thing as soul mates then why are all the great women I know, that would be great girlfriends and great wives, either single or having a hard time finding a mate. I know GOD built us for companionship but who said that companion was supposed to be a husband or a wife. Not everyone gets married or at least spends their lives with that one person. Maybe I'm broken and bitter. But I can't truly believe that GOD is keeping me "happily" single until I am ready for my soul mate or he is ready for me. I used to believe that but I don't anymore. That might be sad but that's where life has taken me. I had to reassure my mom that I would at least try just in case there is someone out there for me. I have no idea who I had that conversation with but that was not my mom. But it does make me think that if someone so independent and content with what life gave her could believe in soul mates then maybe...well umm naw....I don't think I can....
Sunday, May 22, 2011
No Regrets: Putting myself out there
Working on my laidbackness and my patience......
So me Ms. Ihavetotryeverythingatleastonce has joined match.com and it is trying my patience and testing my laidbackness. Two things that I decided to work on before I joined. I'm learning a lot, like how to not be too choosy. I am not giving up being choosy but some things I have to get over. I am also learning that guys think that pictures with their shirt off, with pets, just of the outdoors or no picture at all will get the attention of a girl. I mean really!!! I am a firm believer that you should introduce the crazy straight off but putting all your hang ups or issues in your profile....umm no. I don't want to read in your profile that your ex-girlfriend cheated, lie and used drugs so you don't want a girl that does any of that. No one wants someone that does that stuff. So....ugh....anyway. Dating online isn't that much different from dating period. A whole lot of baggage carried on into something new. There is still the waiting for a phone call that is now joined with waiting for an email. Let's not forget the rejection. You still have to compete but this time you are competing with the random 5/6 girls that are getting matched with the one person that you really are interested in every day. Which means that there is a chance that he might pick one of them over you....in comes the rejection. I have been avoiding this for so many years, its the reason why I became aggressive in dating but now I must face it and truly put myself out there. I will keep you informed.
So me Ms. Ihavetotryeverythingatleastonce has joined match.com and it is trying my patience and testing my laidbackness. Two things that I decided to work on before I joined. I'm learning a lot, like how to not be too choosy. I am not giving up being choosy but some things I have to get over. I am also learning that guys think that pictures with their shirt off, with pets, just of the outdoors or no picture at all will get the attention of a girl. I mean really!!! I am a firm believer that you should introduce the crazy straight off but putting all your hang ups or issues in your profile....umm no. I don't want to read in your profile that your ex-girlfriend cheated, lie and used drugs so you don't want a girl that does any of that. No one wants someone that does that stuff. So....ugh....anyway. Dating online isn't that much different from dating period. A whole lot of baggage carried on into something new. There is still the waiting for a phone call that is now joined with waiting for an email. Let's not forget the rejection. You still have to compete but this time you are competing with the random 5/6 girls that are getting matched with the one person that you really are interested in every day. Which means that there is a chance that he might pick one of them over you....in comes the rejection. I have been avoiding this for so many years, its the reason why I became aggressive in dating but now I must face it and truly put myself out there. I will keep you informed.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Life and Times: Cooking
Homemade anything made by me.....This week homemade items
Potato chips topped with parmesan cheese dipped in honey mustard sauce.
Chicken and dumplings
Can we say, YUM!
Potato chips topped with parmesan cheese dipped in honey mustard sauce.
Chicken and dumplings
Can we say, YUM!
All we ever talk about is partying, FASHION and men.....
This summer starts my internet shopping spree....not really sure how that is going to turn out but I am definitely going to give it a try. I just feel like you can't find anything in the stores anymore and if you find something, everyone else has it on.
Things that I will be looking for are long dress and skirts in bright solid colors or all over prints.
Sites that I will frequent:
Modcloth.com
Forever21.com
lulus.com
onestopplus.com
target.com
charlotterusse.com
Torrid.com
So away we go.....
Things that I will be looking for are long dress and skirts in bright solid colors or all over prints.
Sites that I will frequent:
Modcloth.com
Forever21.com
lulus.com
onestopplus.com
target.com
charlotterusse.com
Torrid.com
So away we go.....
All we ever talk about: Something else
March 3, 2011
I went to the Virgina Museum of Fine Arts to see "When we were colored" in the Leslie Creek Theater.
For those who haven't seen this movie, it is a book by Clifton L. Taulbert made into a movie directed by Tim Reid. It's the story of a young boy and the community of people that influenced his life from childhood until young adulthood. This story is told during the time of segregation until the civil rights moment. It is such a compelling story and if you haven't read the book or seen the movie you should.
By my surprised when I arrived at the Theater they had some special guest speaker's which happened to be Tim Reid, his wife Daphne Maxwell Reid and Richard Roundtree. These three people are so amazing to me, it was just incredible to listen to them speak about life and the movie industry.
My favorite quote of the evening came about when Tim Reid was explaining how they had to recreate a cotton field when they couldn't find one. It was July and there would be no cotton until August. He had a crew of all white guys glue cotton on a 7 acre field of surviving stock in Dune NC. To this he said, "We took it off and they have to put it back."
Great movie and great conversation.....
I went to the Virgina Museum of Fine Arts to see "When we were colored" in the Leslie Creek Theater.
For those who haven't seen this movie, it is a book by Clifton L. Taulbert made into a movie directed by Tim Reid. It's the story of a young boy and the community of people that influenced his life from childhood until young adulthood. This story is told during the time of segregation until the civil rights moment. It is such a compelling story and if you haven't read the book or seen the movie you should.
By my surprised when I arrived at the Theater they had some special guest speaker's which happened to be Tim Reid, his wife Daphne Maxwell Reid and Richard Roundtree. These three people are so amazing to me, it was just incredible to listen to them speak about life and the movie industry.
My favorite quote of the evening came about when Tim Reid was explaining how they had to recreate a cotton field when they couldn't find one. It was July and there would be no cotton until August. He had a crew of all white guys glue cotton on a 7 acre field of surviving stock in Dune NC. To this he said, "We took it off and they have to put it back."
Great movie and great conversation.....
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